Friday, March 28, 2008
Dating advice
I have been on a dating hiatus for over a year. Heeding a friend's advice, I ventured onto Match.com. After a slow start, I finally have a first date on Sunday afternoon. Obviously, I'm a bit rusty. Does anyone have any advice, words of wisdom, words of encouragement, words of warning? Anyone....anyone? Bueller...Bueller?
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Yea! Hope the date went well. Sorry I didn't see this before then. But for future, my advice is to be yourself, no fakeness. Have open conversation and not just talk about self. The key is to ask random things that will get him talking b/c your goal is to figure out who this guy is as well as express the best in yourself!
Thanks Cat. He must have followed your advice. He asked all the questions. It was really easy for me. It was a good first date. But the trick for me is to keep my cool & let the 2nd date happen if it is meant to. I've been fretting over getting a 2nd date. I keep telling myself to chill out. It's so difficult though.
Are you go for online dating you need to read this tips that is more help full 4 u
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1.Be honest. Like what is always advised to many others who engaged in Online Dating, it is always best to be honest with everything you put into to your profile. From the photo you upload to the details on your profile, if you are serious in finding romance Asian
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2.Be careful with whom you give out your personal details to. There are a lot of internet creeps so make sure you know the person well before you jump into conclusion of giving out your numbers and addresses. You don’t to be a victim, do you?
3.Always remember that nobody’s perfect. The person you are chatting at the other end may sound so perfect for you but don’t expect too much from that person. No one was made perfect so if your potential online boyfriend lacks something you want, don’t despair. You yourself aren’t perfect.
From the post above, it sounds like your Internet dating venture has been so successful that you probably don't need any advice, but here're my two cents anyway:
1. Find out early on what brought him to Match. What does he want to get out of it? I made the mistake of not asking that question upfront and discovered after it was too late that the guy was really only looking to date casually, whereas I was searching for a serious relationship. It helps to know if you're on the same page or not!
2. Remember that he's just as nervous as you are! Focus on asking him questions, drawing him out, and generally trying to make him as comfortable as possible, and you may find that you aren't as focused on how nervous you are.
3. Go slowly and take a wait-and-see approach. Even if he seems perfect after that first date, he has flaws like everyone else. You just haven't had time to see them yet. Try not to invest too much hope or emotion in him until you know you're exclusive, at which point he should take his profile down, and you should check to make sure he does.
4. If you don't feel an immediate spark but think he has a lot to recommend him, go out with him a few times more. I have one friend who says that her most passionate relationship didn't click until after the eighth or ninth date!
5. Listen to your gut. If you see any red flags or suspect that he's not being 100% genuine, proceed with extreme caution.
Good luck, although it doesn't sound like you need it! Keep having fun! :)
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"Love is patient, love is kind. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud."
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